One of the most common questions in D/s communities is "What tasks do you give your subs?" The answer varies wildly depending on your dynamic, lifestyle, distance, and what you're trying to build together.
This guide organizes ideas by category so you can pick what fits your relationship. Remember: the best tasks serve your dynamic's goals, not just fill time.
Daily Self-Care & Health Tasks
Tasks that help submissives take care of themselves often create the strongest foundation. They show that dominance includes stewardship.
Health & Fitness:
- Drink 48oz (1.5L) minimum of water daily
- 30-minute workout daily or X times per week
- Yoga/stretching 3x per week to stay flexible
- Eat healthy 6 times per week
- Take vitamins/medications on schedule
- Get 7-8 hours of sleep
- No phone 30 minutes before bed
- Morning meditation or journaling
Grooming & Presentation:
- Shave legs and bikini area every other day (or as specified)
- Daily shower with specific routine
- Maintain nails at specified length/style
- Hair care routine on schedule
- Skincare morning and night
- Wear assigned underwear or no underwear
- Dress code for work/home
Service & Domestic Tasks
Service tasks create a tangible expression of the power exchange in everyday life.
When Together:
- Have ice water ready when they get home
- Dress and undress them (shoes, jacket, etc.)
- Fetch anything they need
- Walk the dog twice daily
- Prepare meals or snacks
- Keep dishes clean
- Maintain tidy living space
- Run errands as assigned
- Take them on dates
Long Distance:
- Check-in messages twice daily
- Research tasks (tech advice, purchases, etc.)
- Collect parcels or make purchases
- Water plants on assigned days
- Manage shared calendar
- Send good morning/night messages
- Plan virtual dates
- Organize digital files/photos
Intimate & Sexual Tasks
These tasks maintain sexual tension and connection, especially important forlong-distance dynamics.
Edge & Denial:
- Do X number of edges per day
- Ask permission to masturbate/orgasm
- Wear chastity device as assigned
- Edge but don't orgasm for X days
- Orgasm only with permission
- Daily edging with journal entry about feelings
Photos & Videos:
- Send a nude/lingerie picture twice per week
- Send a spreading pic
- Video proof of no underwear
- Video copying a gif/video they send
- Morning mirror selfie in assigned outfit
- Post-workout photo
- Bedtime photo in position
Toy & Wear Tasks:
- Ben-wa balls for X hours
- Wear remote vibrator while out in public
- Occupied (vibe, ben-wa balls, or plug) all day
- Wear corset for the day
- Skirt with no underwear
- Wear collar after work / all weekend
- Sleep in assigned position
- Wear plug for X hours
Daily Rituals & Protocols
Rituals create continuity and keep the dynamic alive between scenes. They're especially powerful for FLR and 24/7 dynamics.
Morning Rituals
Good morning message with specific format, kneeling before getting dressed, meditation while thinking of Dominant, ask what to wear today, recite affirmation or mantra.
Evening Rituals
Remove Dominant's shoes when they arrive, kneel for 5 minutes before bed, ask permission to sleep, nightly gratitude list, write in sub journal.
Weekly Rituals
Sunday relationship review, weekly goal setting, scheduled service time, formal dinner with protocols, maintenance spanking, toy cleaning and organization.
Journaling Tasks:
- Write in sub journal 3x per week
- Daily gratitude related to the dynamic
- Weekly reflection on growth
- Record all orgasms/edges with feelings
- Memorize and recite assigned lines
- Research a kink topic and present findings
Rewards for Good Behavior
Rewards reinforce positive behavior and make the dynamic feel balanced. The best rewards are meaningful to the submissive specifically.
Physical Rewards:
- Orgasm permission
- Massage or physical affection
- Favorite sexual activity
- Release from chastity
- Collar ceremony or upgrade
- New toy or lingerie
- Sleeping in bed vs. floor
Privilege Rewards:
- Choose the movie/dinner/activity
- Day off from tasks
- Free orgasms for a day
- Special date night
- Praise and verbal affirmation
- Extra screen time or hobby time
- Sleep in or late bedtime
Credit System
Many couples use a credit system where tasks earn points that can be redeemed for rewards. UNION has a built-in credit system that tracks earnings and spending automatically.
Punishments for Incomplete Tasks
Punishments should be meaningful but not damaging. The goal is correction and accountability, not harm. Always discuss limits around punishments beforehand.
Physical Punishments:
- Spanking (specified number)
- Cold shower
- Hold stress position
- Wear anal plug for X hours
- Clothespins for X minutes
- Kneeling on rice
- Corner time
- No sitting on furniture
Privilege Removal:
- Extended chastity time
- No orgasms for X days
- Early bedtime
- No phone/TV for evening
- Write lines (repetitive text)
- Essay about what went wrong
- Extra tasks added
- Loss of earned credits
Important Notes on Punishments:
- Never punish in anger - wait until you're calm
- Punishments should fit the 'crime' proportionally
- Some things require conversation, not punishment
- Aftercare is still important after punishment
- Don't use punishments that damage the relationship long-term
"Funishments" (Playful Consequences)
Sometimes consequences are more playful than punitive - things the submissive secretly enjoys but still creates accountability.
- Forced orgasms
- Public teasing (discreet)
- Embarrassing outfit at home
- Serve dinner naked
- Write dirty story about their failure
- Send embarrassing selfie (for Dom's eyes only)
- Edge X times without release
- Wear vibrator to grocery store
How to Choose the Right Tasks
Not every task works for every dynamic. Consider these factors:
1. What are your goals?
Health improvement? Sexual tension? Service? Connection? Pick tasks that serve those goals.
2. What's realistic?
Start with 3-5 daily tasks max. Overwhelming task lists lead to burnout and failure.
3. In-person or long-distance?
Distance requires more verification-friendly tasks. See ourlong-distance D/s guide.
4. Does it serve the submissive too?
The best tasks benefit both partners. Health tasks, skill-building, and connection rituals create value beyond the power exchange.
Track Tasks, Rewards & Punishments
UNION makes task management effortless with recurring tasks, verification photos, a built-in credit system, and progress tracking. Keep your dynamic organized and accountable.