How to Play, Consent First
Everyone takes a turn saying “Never have I ever…” and finishing the sentence. If you have done it, put down a finger or move a token. Agree on these rules first:
- Passing is always fine — Anyone can skip a prompt without explaining.
- Choose the heat together — Start with the warm-up and only move on if everyone agrees.
- Stories are optional — Admitting something does not oblige you to share details.
- Answers stay private — Nobody repeats them outside the game.
Go easy on alcohol, because consent needs a clear head. Tea works just as well.
The 101 Questions
Each line continues “Never have I ever…” and the heat rises as you go.
Warm-Up (1–25)
- sent a flirty text to the wrong person.
- had a crush on a coworker.
- kissed someone on a first date.
- stayed up all night talking to a date.
- blushed at a compliment.
- practised a flirty line in the mirror.
- kissed someone in public.
- made the first move.
- fallen for someone after one conversation.
- given a massage that turned romantic.
- sent a love song to a crush.
- flirted my way out of trouble.
- been caught staring at someone.
- kept a secret crush for over a year.
- kissed in the rain.
- met a stranger from an app.
- written a love letter.
- slow-danced in the kitchen.
- fallen asleep on a date.
- been told I am a great kisser.
- said “I love you” first.
- checked an ex’s profile late at night.
- dressed up just to impress someone.
- had butterflies from a single text.
- flirted with a total stranger.
Flirty (26–50)
- sent a flirty selfie.
- kissed someone within an hour of meeting.
- had a date turn into breakfast.
- made out in a car.
- skinny-dipped.
- worn something just to tease a partner.
- whispered something naughty in public.
- been kissed on the neck.
- teased a partner in front of friends.
- played footsie under a table.
- had a secret signal with a partner.
- sexted at the worst possible time.
- fantasised about a celebrity.
- had a steamy dream about someone I know.
- left a love bite on someone.
- made out on a dance floor.
- given a slow, teasing kiss on purpose.
- started a date with no plan for the night.
- flirted with a bartender.
- been flirted with by a stranger.
- skipped plans to stay in with someone.
- cooked a seductive dinner.
- lingered at a goodnight kiss.
- sent a voice message that got heated.
- said something bold, then blushed.
Spicy (51–76)
- had sex outdoors.
- had a sleepover go further than planned.
- tried a new position that failed.
- laughed during sex.
- watched adult content with a partner.
- used a sex toy with a partner.
- role-played with a partner.
- had a one-night stand.
- been intimate in a hotel on a trip.
- had a friends-with-benefits arrangement.
- been surprised by a partner’s fantasy.
- shared a fantasy out loud.
- showered with a partner.
- fantasised about somewhere risky.
- used dirty talk on purpose.
- faked enthusiasm and regretted it.
- asked for exactly what I wanted.
- been too shy to say what I want.
- had make-up sex.
- lit candles for a romantic evening.
- given someone a striptease.
- been tied up with a scarf.
- read erotic fiction.
- listened to erotic audio.
- kept a fantasy secret from a partner.
- wanted to try something and never asked.
Kinky (77–101)
- been blindfolded.
- blindfolded a partner.
- used handcuffs or restraints.
- been spanked.
- spanked a partner.
- played with ice or warm wax.
- agreed on a safe word.
- used a safe word.
- taken a kink test.
- written a yes/no/maybe list.
- tried orgasm denial.
- worn a collar.
- given a partner orders in the bedroom.
- followed orders in the bedroom.
- tried a rope or shibari session.
- been to a kink event or munch.
- played out a power-swap scene.
- dressed up in a costume for a partner.
- tried a chastity device.
- given a partner a task to do.
- enjoyed aftercare as much as the scene.
- negotiated a scene in writing.
- changed my mind mid-scene and said so.
- discovered a kink I did not expect to like.
- thanked a partner for trying something new.
Turn Answers Into a Conversation
After a surprising answer, ask “Is that something you would want to try, or just a fantasy?” A yes is curiosity, not a contract. Our Yes/No/Maybe list guide helps you sort what you learn, the kink bucket list offers next ideas, and the safe words guide covers stop signals.
If Someone Passes or Goes Quiet
A pass, a joke or a change of subject means stop. Do not press. Thank them, then move to a milder question or end the game and try another night.
Where UNION Fits
Unsure what you want to answer? The Free BDSM Test maps your preferences with 17 anonymous questions. UNION, the end-to-end encrypted couples app offers a private place for shared rituals, and the Kink Communication & Compatibility hub has more guides on talking about desire.
Limits of This Article
This article is educational and for adults only. It is not legal, medical or psychological advice, and laws on sexual content and public intimacy vary by country and region. Stop if anyone feels pressured or distressed.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do you play Never Have I Ever with a partner?
Take turns saying “Never have I ever…” and finishing the sentence. Whoever has done it admits it, and can share the story if they like.
What if my partner does not want to answer?
Skip it. Passing is part of the game, and respecting it builds trust.
Can I play without alcohol?
Yes. Use fingers, tokens or points instead.